The train of memories passes through our imagination carrying with it images and moments from our life in the family home that brought us together with brothers and sisters who shared space and time with us, reminding us of the moments of laughter, play and mischief, so we remember the details of some of them and wish for others to return, those memories that strengthened the feeling of belonging to the family, and when we wake up to our present we say: May God have mercy on those days when we used to sit in one room surrounding our father so he could tell us about his memories of his travels and work, or when we would sit with our mother and she would tell us beautiful stories and sometimes she would remember moments from her childhood with her siblings, and at moments one of us would misbehave with the other, but we quickly returned with more love and compassion for the other.
However, the picture with our children nowadays may be different in most homes, as each of them lives in his own world, in an electronic shell or with friends and screens that occupy him or make him forget his relationship with his brothers and sisters. Some educators may ignore trying to fix this matter to avoid the problems that some children may raise that may bother him, and thus children lose over time the fraternal bonds that are the basis of their relationship with each other; and the realistic lessons it carries, from which they learn that brotherhood is equal in rights and duties, brotherhood is love, tolerance, cooperation, sharing, concern and support, and this does not happen without an interactive relationship that teaches these meanings and provides opportunities for safe interaction under the leadership of an aware educator.
The stories of the Qur’an carry lessons that teach us our duties. We find in the story of Moses, peace be upon him, what confirms the strength of brotherly bonds, as we find him, upon his return to Egypt and receiving the message, turning to God in supplication and singling out his brother to be a support to him, realizing that the brotherly bonds between them are a force that strengthens him and supports him in his message ( And appoint for me a helper from my family - Aaron, my brother. Strengthen my back through him ) Surah Taha - Verses 25-36
On the contrary, we see the story of Joseph, peace be upon him, when his brothers plotted against him due to jealousy. The Quranic context refers to the phrase “Satan has incited discord between me and my brothers,” meaning that discord between brothers is caused by several factors that may last a long time, but sound educational principles can resolve it no matter how long it takes.
When the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, wanted to describe the relationship between believers, he said, “The believers are nothing but brothers.”
So, what an individual finds in his relationship with his brother, he does not find with others, no matter how attached we are to them and how developed the relationship is. Their childhood memories remain the strongest bonds through which they support each other in a future we do not know and perhaps will not live. So, do not deprive your children of experiencing the joy of their childhood with their brothers . Be fair, resist conflicts and ask them for radical solutions to prevent their recurrence. Define responsibilities, teach them their rights and duties, and set frameworks and laws that protect them and help them develop a fraternal relationship based on love and unity, not competition.
Make them remember their childhood and feel the beauty of brotherhood.